Masturbation Tips for Men
Whether you’re a beginner wanting to get started or you’re more experienced and looking to try new masturbation techniques, here are our tips for jerking off.
Due to the Covid-19 lockdown, you’re probably spending a lot more time inside right now. And if you’re in the house and running out of things to do, it’s also pretty likely that you’ve decided to “take things into your own hands” in more ways than one. Since many couples are isolated from each other and, for singletons, the crisis has put the dating game on hold for the foreseeable future, we’re having to take a “me, myself and I” approach to satisfying our sexual urges. Even for people holed up with their significant others and able to continue their sex life, jerking off is a way to enjoy some much needed “me time”.
But masturbation isn’t just a pleasurable way to occupy your time, it’s also a good distraction from the anxiety-inducing newsfeed updates and outbreaks. Jerking off happens to be linked to serious mental and physical health benefits [ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure/masturbation/masturbation-healthy]. So, if you want to keep healthy in body and mind, a little solo session might help. There is no single best way to masturbate and it’s different for each person— so our number one masturbation tip would be to experiment and work out what turns you on. However, if you’re looking to spice things up or want a few pointers to get you started, check out our guide to male masturbation below.
1.Find somewhere in the house where you won’t be disturbed
With family, roommates or significant others all spending a lot more time at home than usual, it’s going to be harder than normal to have some fun without interruption from the people you live with (if you’re not lucky enough to have your own space). So, before you begin it’s important to find a space where you can let loose and not worry about the possibility of an awkward encounter. For that reason, the shower is a popular place for a bit of self-pleasure, but we’d recommend any room with a lock where you can disappear for a while.
2. Take it slow
For some people there can still be some shame around male masturbation, which can make men hesitant to pleasure themselves as well as they deserve. But it’s important to remember that masturbation can be a central part of self-care that’s good for both mental and physical wellbeing. Too often men rush towards climax but, now that we all have a lot freer time, there’s an opportunity to take care and ensure that you enjoy the journey. In this process you’ll likely find new sensations that turn you on, leading to a more intense orgasm overall.
3. Lube (not lotion!)
Masturbating without a lubricant can cause friction, and that’s why a lot of people reach for lotion during a masturbation session, but this can sometimes prove irritating for the sensitive skin of your penis. Try using a lube instead. It helps slow down the experience, allowing you to be more in the moment and less goal-orientated and the slippery texture also better replicates partnered, penetrative sex.
4. Switch up your stroking style
Once we find a rhythm or stroke that works for us it can be tempting to stick to it — we know it has a high success rate. However, it’s always worth seeing what else is out there! Rather than keeping to an up and down motion you could play with the head of your penis with one hand while stroking with the other, or maybe add a bit of twisting to your strokes. If you’re wanting to branch out further, you could hold your penis against your stomach and give the underside of member some attention. Get creative!
5. Try it with a condom
At first it may seem counter-intuitive to try masturbating with a condom but experimenting has its benefits. Use it as a chance to work out which condom fits you best and what texture and size feels comfortable to you. Do you like the feel of ribbed, dotted, or extra lube? Taking the time to work out your perfect fit means you’ll be able to practice putting on a condom easily and smoothly too – so there’s less awkward fumbling in the dark once you’re able to partner-up!
7. Pay attention to your balls
Whilst it’s natural to hone in on your dick, try broadening your pleasure horizons by giving your testicles some TLC. Try gently pulling on your balls in a downwards motion and build up a rhythm of pulling and releasing that’s like playing with your shaft. Many men are able to orgasm from this method, after a little trial and error. Otherwise, you can play with both your shaft and testicles simultaneously. For example, try pressing on your balls with your lower fingers with each downward stroke on your shaft.
8. Get up, standup…and change position:
Just like with your stroke pattern or grip, it’s easy to get stuck into a repetitive rut with the position you choose when masturbating. So, if you normally sit down, maybe try standing up. If you’re looking for something more adventurous, try propping up your hips with a pillow, pushing out your hips and leaning against a counter, or masturbating on all fours. Along the way, you’re sure to discover a new sensation that hits the spot.
9. Explore other erogenous zones
It’s not just your dick and balls that deserve some love, but your whole body. Try pinching your nipples, stimulating your taint (the area between your ass and penis, which is full of nerve endings) or touching your ears, neck and mouth. All of these areas are sensitive, sexy and sure to liven up your solo session.
Edging, also known as orgasm control, can be a way of stretching out your climax for an earth-shattering happy ending. It’s a method where, whenever you’re just about ready to orgasm, you stop, wait a bit and start again. You can repeat it as many times as you like until you finally let yourself orgasm.
11. Prostate stimulation
Located inside your anal opening, the prostate is often referred to as the “male G-spot”. If you fancy getting to know it up and personal, insert a finger and massage your prostate, increasing speed and finding the right motion until you’re ready to finish. Some people are still hesitant to experiment with their ass, which is nothing to be ashamed of, but we say why deny yourself the pleasure? Try this with a lube to make the experience more stimulating.
Toys aren’t just for women! As with anything, this is a matter of personal choice as there are a lot of toys out there that men can enjoy. A vibrator, for example, can be used gently on the testicles and taint for extra stimulation. For anybody that’s a fan of prostate play, you can try some anal beads or anal specific products. Try throwing some of these into the mix to switch up your solo session…but please remember to clean up your toys after you’re done!